Ten commandments for a great marriage

‘Honour…marriage.’ Hebrews 13:4 NLT

Here are Ten Commandments for building a great marriage:

1) God said, ‘Honour…marriage,’ so remain faithful to one another. Forsaking all others, put your mate before your mother, your father, your son, and your daughter. Your mate is your lifelong companion.

2) Remember, ‘You…are the temple of God and…the Spirit of God lives in you’ (1 Corinthians 3:16 NLT). Don’t abuse your health with excessive food, tobacco, drugs, and alcohol, and hopefully you’ll enjoy a long, healthy life around the people you love.

3) Never permit your business or hobby to make you a stranger to your own family. ‘Children are a gift from the LORD…a reward from him’ (Psalm 127:3 NLT), and the most precious gift you can give them is your time.

4) Don’t forget that cleanliness is a virtue.

5) Willingly share all your worldly goods, and don’t make your mate a beggar. ‘Go all out in…love…as Christ did for the church – a love marked by giving, not getting’ (Ephesians 5:25 MSG).

6) Don’t forget to say, ‘I love you.’ Even though your love may be constant, your mate never gets tired of hearing those words.

7) Remember that the approval of your spouse is worth more than the admiring glances of a hundred strangers.

8) Keep your home peaceful and in good repair, for out of it comes the joys of old age.

9) Always forgive with grace, for who among us doesn’t need to be forgiven? ‘Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive…as quickly and thoroughly as…Christ forgave you’ (Ephesians 4:32 MSG).

10) Honour God, and your children are much more likely to grow up and honour you (see Proverbs 22:6).

Adapted from: United Christian Broadcasters


Life struggles are real, but there’s hope

Social media can be both a blessing and a pain. We meet new people, get business or employment connections, receive updates about what’s happening with friends, etc. Everyday, we’re either reading some bad news, or celebrating with likes, wows and loves on some good news but you can be sure, there’s always something that will astonish you or cause your emotions to feel like you’re on a roller coaster. Just this weekend we were and are still mourning the loss of a friend’s daughter, so young and in university, with so much hope for the future, but her life cut short. I cannot begin to imagine what the parents and siblings are going through, heartbreaking is an understatement. We were hopeful that she would survive after that road accident, but unfortunately, she didn’t make it. We can only but pray and trust God for comfort and peace upon the family and everyone who knew her.

And while i was trying to come to terms with that, i bumped onto another sad post in a Mums group, where a mother was pouring out her heart, she feels she has had it with life – what with  struggles in the marriage, a husband who openly cheats on her and beats her up, with two children and no work, wondering where to turn to, and now feeling that ending her life is a solution to all her problems! I can only imagine what she has been through for her to get to that point, and countless others could be at the same place. Feeling like the world does not and cannot understand their situation. However, i have always believed and still do that no matter what you go through, there’s always a way out. There’s somebody out there with a solution to your situation. The Bible says, there’s nothing new under the sun; what is, has been and will be. It may seem difficult, but if you could only reach out and not bottle up everything inside, you will find the help you need. In this particular case, hundreds of responses came and the Admin eventually turned of comments; with people reaching out to her – some offering to assist with raising the children, others offering a job and even others offering a shoulder to cry on, shelter, name it – but suicide is not and will never be a solution!

You might be in that place, where you feel, you have struggled enough – prayed, trusted God, believed that your season of struggles and emptiness is ending, but it has lingered on. My sister, God is faithful, He is so faithful (Deuteronomy 7:5). God makes a way where is there’s no way, He is with you always and will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews.13:5). A mother may forsake her nursing child, but our God will never forsake you (Isaiah 49:16). Trust Him. Never lose hope, just don’t give up yet! Find a friend, confidant, a counselor or a Pastor, anyone that you feel comfortable with and pour out your heart. Let them counsel and pray with you. Just don’t keep silent and hurt inside. “For there is hope for a tree, If it is cut down, that it will sprout again, And that its tender shoots will not cease.’ Job 14: 7. Furthermore, Psalm 34:19 tells us, ‘Many are the afflictions of the righteous, But the Lord delivers him out of them all.’ IT SHALL BE WELL!

Something about me!

This being my first post, as an intro, i would like to say that Jesus is Lord over my life, and i hope and pray that He will be at the center of all that i write. That what i write will inspire, help somebody explore, will open doors for someone and bring change in a situation. That what i write will be a blessing to the reader. What i share will connect somebody with their opportunity even as i share opportunities that i come across online. I pray that i will make fruitful connections.

Something more about myself, i love children, they amaze me at their thoughts and words and i’m developing the habit of listening and paying attention when a child speaks. Learning from them as well. I’m a Mentor, a Pastor’s wife, mother and a human resource professional.

I’m inspired by peoples stories and experiences and believe that we’re all unique and each of us has something special to give, no matter where you’re at in life, struggling or otherwise!

I’m a work in progress, God is still working on me, i’m still learning everyday and hoping my breakthrough will come soon! I love reading, travelling, researching and singing! Once in a while, as the Lord inspires me, i write songs and inspirational quotes….hopefully one day, the songs will be sung!